The concept of beauty

concept of beauty - body shapes

It’s so hard for a woman to find herself beautiful in a world that is constantly showing us very narrow definitions of beauty. In a place where everything has to make impression, we are put to the test of staying real to ourselves and believing that we are worthy of love and attention.

Why the external things and our body image is playing such a major role today? Why so often I see women and young girls that are coming to my studio saying: “I am not beautiful”, “I don’t remember when was the last time I felt beautiful”, “I am not worthy of any attention, I have a square body and I hate it” or “I wish I was born not that way…” Those stories are real. And believe me, I know how painful it is to feel that way.

I know – you need to work on your self esteem and love yourself now. I know that there will be always people that will tell you “You’re beautiful”, but does it really help? Hearing that or even telling yourself that you like the way you look is easy, but believing it – deeply within, is an entirely different story.

Every single one of us has a body image. We cannot avoid having feelings about how we look; it is just a part of our human nature. We are influenced by how others see us and what they might think about us. We are formed by the beauty standards, that are ever evolving. From the moment we are born – we are influenced by those around us. Families and friends convey to us positive and negative messages regarding our bodies continuously. Media that are showing us the way ‘the ideal woman’ should look like – setting the standards for todays women. It’s so powerful, that people, and especially girls and young women, are progressively comparing themselves to clinically underweight models. The funny thing is – it’s not anything new. For ages that’s how we’ve been trained!

1910 putting on a corset

Every weight loss program, no matter how positively packaged, whispers to you that you’re not right. You’re not good enough. You’re unacceptable and you need to be fixed. When you add to it the whole process of aging, illness, and emotions – that’s a real challenge. Sometimes I think it would be so much easier if we could create the positive body image all on our own…

The main is thing is to understand that having a positive body image is not about how you look! It’s about how you feel about yourself and the way you look!

So often we are measured by the things we can not control. The way our body curves or does not curve, the inches we have in certain plaices, our height, muscle and bone structure, everything that is mostly determined by our genes. When do we understand that ideal beauty is ideal because it does not exist!

There is no right or wrong when it comes to body shape or appearance. Everyone is different in body size and shape and we should celebrate our diversity and individuality!

The beauty of the woman is not in the clothes she wears, the perfumes she uses or the way she makes her hair. It’s not in the makeup kit or false lashes ether! You can have stretch marks and saggy arms and be beautiful, because that is not where your beauty is!

Your beauty is in you and your heart and soul, in the way you love your children and your family. And those flabby arms hug and comfort and bring joy to your family and friends! It’s in your eyes, and in the way you care about other people, in the way you speak with love and passion about what’s important to you. It’s all there! So, next time, when you look in the mirror, I want to ask you something – try to let go of the story-line that says you’re too fat or too sallow, too ashy or too old, your eyes are too small or your nose too big; just look in the mirror and see yourself. Look at your eyes and when you put aside the whole criticism, what’s left is the real YOU – the beautifully made woman, that can conquer the world.

Always remember that.


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